The Rodning boys — Steve and Nate — were two of my best friends when I was growing up in Lancaster, California. When his family moved away, Steve stayed behind and moved in with the Holt family to finish his senior year in high school. At that point, he became my "big brother." He had a cool trombone; I had to have the same one. The first solo I played was one he had played. He had a cool orange 10-speed bike; I had to settle for the white one. Algebra made no sense to me until Steve explained it. I listened slack-jawed as Steve improvised gorgeous tunes at the piano — he even said he liked the accompanying beats I banged out on a hymnal. He challenged himself to longer-distance bike riding and invited me along. I still remember his recommendations that started my lifelong interest in classical music. Not once did he ever make me feel like an annoying freshman.
Although we hadn't communicated with each other in many years, Steve and I shared a phone conversation about a year or two ago. We seemed to have picked up where we had left off. He still seemed like my older brother, offering wisdom and perspective about family, work and life. I heard the laugh and felt the optimism. He was still Steve, no doubt about it.
We said our good-byes to each other last week. The phone call was not easy for me to make, but, true to form, Steve made *me* feel at peace. He said he'd see me on the other side. I believe him.